Definition of Adolescence. “The 24 hour a day, 7 day a week, 365 day battle to not be embarrassed” – and “Any kid would rather be perceived as bad, then dumb”
Why does that mean anything? As a parent you do millions of things that have an effect on your children. But often you don’t see the motivation behind some of the behavior. And this one is key. Sometimes the acting out etc, is not because they are bad, it’s because of a perception. If they perceived to be dumb, they are thrown into a “group” which it is hard to get out of. Being “Bad” is a group that is good to be in for an adolescence. So when you have kids, this is something to keep an eye out for, but it does also happen as adults. If you see the behavior in your child, make sure you don’t have the halo effect and think they are smart. Look at what they can or can’t do, and the best think you can do is get them the help so they learn what they need to learn. The stupid label on them, is tough to shake, but catching it as acting bad, and then getting them help will stop the bad behavior and fix the root cause.
What does that have to do with being a better person? It is often we need to dig deeper into the cause of the behavior not just the behavior. If people around you are acting in a way that seems off, you can either say “they are just bad” But they may be ignorant and hiding it, thus causing a problem that shouldn’t be. You being the better person, has to rise above the pettiness and not get into the shouting match, the argument and the name calling. You must take a step back, and find an alternative to figuring it all out.
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